The way ajoshis checking me out....

Or checking anyone out..
and, any old Asian middle aged men with needlessly conservative values...

It was about 6 months ago. I walked into an authentic Chinese restaurant in California. There was a group of 15 of Chinese people (big family) having lunch. As I was walked in heading towards to my table, this Chinese ajoshi looked at me up-down-up with a super flat face. I mean, with no emotion whatsoever. It almost looks bitter.
Then, my friend said,
"He is checking you out."
Just to be clear, he was a Chinese-American. He had to tell me (a Korean-American) what that Chinese ajoshi just did.
Here's the thing. I lived in Korea for about 1.5 years in my early 20s. I got that look A LOT. I always thought they didn't like something about me. Either my clothes are funny or my hair or my attitude... whatever! I never knew why.
I couldn't believe what I just heard.
"Serious? How is that even flattering? He looks so bitter!"
Then he said,
"Ya, because he is sitting with his wife and grand kids. He wants to hide the fact that he is checking you out."

Wowza. When "normal" people are checking me out, it's actually flattering whether they are actually hot or not. They appreciate my look (or whatever they like about me), and I can feel that. But, I can't ever get used to the way ajoshis checking me out. Mind over matter? Well, I don't think so....